Recreate Your Relationship
with the Relationship Alchemist
Welcome to a transformational journey for you, your partner, and your relationship.
With over two decades of coaching, combined with my learnings from first hand experience, I offer a unique, transformational approach that goes far beyond traditional counselling, helping couples and individuals address the root causes of their challenges, and build a stronger, more compassionate connection.
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Why Consider Relationship Coaching?
"The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your relationships"
When one or more of your close relationships is struggling, the pain can be overwhelming, affecting every other area of our lives.
You can have all the success, fame, fortune, health and power, yet true happiness is near impossible if your relationships are in turmoil,
Perhaps the arguments seem futile, leaving you drained, unheard, frustrated, and emotionally exhausted. Your partner may withdraw rather than enter a discussion or deal with the problems you want to resolve.
You might feel misunderstood, unloved, or disconnected. Perhaps you have a blended family and trying to meet everyone's needs or keep the peace feels impossible.
It can feel like nothing is changing but the situation isn't sustainable.
The good news, is that there is hope!
I will help you rapidly identify the real root causes of the challenges in your dynamic and the subconscious triggers pulling you apart, I will help you resolve the challenges and create a beautiful, fulfilling, emotionally intimate relationship.
What is Relationship Coaching?
Is Relationship Coaching Right For You?
"We marry our unfinished business!"
Relationship coaching is a powerful, transformative process designed to help you and your partner understand and heal the dynamics in your relationship, leading to lasting change.
Did you know that most of our relationships are governed by a blueprint in the subconscious mind that was formed in early childhood?
This unique set of relationship blueprints dictates who you will be most attracted to. It dictates how you will show up and respond to different types of partner and their blueprints too,
It contains your beliefs, expectations and values along with the type of partner we fall head over heels with, even if that blueprint has caused you huge pain in the past. It accounts for why so many of us experience recurring unwanted themes in all our relationships.
For most couples, 99% of challenges arise from how your individual blueprints are interacting. Even if you have multiple differences and disagreements with your partner, these can be more swiftly resolved, once your dynamic has been healed. When the dynamic shifts you can use empowering ways to communicate and resolve challenges with your partner.
You can build a level of emotional intimacy and an amazing relationship that is everything you've always dreamed of.
How is it Different to Relationship Counselling
It's a minefield.
Your partner didn't set the landmines, but they are stepping on them.
Couple's counselling tends to focus on your complaints about each other and how to best address them.
Even with the best skills training (We’re huge advocates of the Gottman research and resulting methods), this tends to just create a more comfortable container in which to house and manage the recurring problems. It’s a little like driving up a rocky mountain in a 4x4 rather than a unicycle... it’s definitely more comfortable, but the landscape underneath hasn’t changed.
With relationship breakthrough coaching, my approach is based on the knowledge that the most significant relationship challenges tend to stem from a mix of unresolved childhood experiences, core beliefs and attachment styles.
For example, our attachment and conflict styles are mostly formed by the age of 3, and by the age of 7, our scripts for parenting and pair-bonding are embedded in our subconscious, ready to set the tone for our adult relationships.
This can create a landscape filled with emotional “landmines” for our relationships, that whilst unpleasant, seem painfully familiar.
Often the main reason counselling can't help is that you're expecting someone else to soothe your wounds and meet your emotional needs. This is wonderful when it's done voluntarily and compassionately, but most often, you have chosen someone who has the perfect compliment to your own emotional wounds.
For example, an avoidant partner who felt suffocated by the needs of their early caregiver and was guilted and shamed for failing to meet them, marries the devoted anxious attached partner who will expect them to meet their needs and guilt and shame them for not doing so.
The anxious attached who grew up feeling rejected and abandoned, attaches to the seemingly stoic and confident avoidant, who then abandons or rejects them over and over again for asking for more than the avoidant has to give. The avoidant perceives the anxious partner's unmet needs as a source of failure and the complaints or requests as attacks, perpetuating the problem.
Whilst you might have a huge amount of evidence to the contrary, our partner did not cause the original problem. They just became part of your self fulfilling prophecy and you, theirs!
Having these blueprints is a bit like wearing glasses that prevent you from seeing your partner for who they really are. As we stumble all over the minefields, setting off the bombs, it's hard not to react badly to this!
Rather than merely navigating these emotional “landmines”, you and I will heal them at the subconscious level. By identifying and addressing these early triggers, you can release persistent patterns of conflict and disconnection, allowing both partners to become safe spaces for each other to receive the love, safety, and validation you deserve.
These changes often have a positive influence over all areas of your life such as your parenting style and relationships with your children, your career, finances, and personal development.
Is Relationship Coaching Right For You?
If you:
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Are on the bring of divorce or separation.
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Have recurring, constant or unresolvable conflicts.
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Feel anxious and jealous.
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Feel criticised or attacked. Nothing you do is good enough.
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Experience uneven mental load.
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Can't make your partner see your point of view.
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Don't feel appreciated, supported or validated.
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Feel neglected, rejected or abandoned.
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Have drifted apart, lost intimacy or trust.
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Have conflicting parenting styles.
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Have conflicting ife goals or values.
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Are willing to change your approach and keep an open mind.
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Are ready to look inward to create a change externally.
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Are willing to accept responsibility for your part in the status quo.
Then we will:
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Identify your mismatched attachment and conflict styles that are creating your dynamic.
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Identify the most problematic patterns, conflicts and triggers.
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Resolve the main conflicts
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Heal your individual patterns and triggers.
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Build your relationship and communication skills.
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Build conflict resolution skills
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Create emotional intimacy and compassion.
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Recreate a deeply fulfilling relationship.
You can work with me alone or in conjunction with your partner and your journey will be tailored to you with support throughout.
Create a New Prophecy!
If your partner does not accept their part in the relationship status and they believe they have no work to do, we can still create significant shifts without their participation.
However, results are faster when both partners participate and very rapid when both partners work on their own individual healing.
A foundational philosophy is
If you have negative emotions about your partners behaviour then you have work to do on yourself.
You have negligible influence over your partners behaviour whilst you are still triggered by it.
Your negative emotions about their behaviour pull you in to becoming part of their self fulling prophecy.
When you step out of their scripted drama, you're able to take a completely different approach and create a new prophecy.
What does the journey look like?
Step 1:
Discovery
You will each have a complimentary one to one session, where we start by exploring your individual relationship blueprints and identifying your unique relationship dynamic.
This step helps clarify the causes of relationship challenges and creates space to consider your personal goals and dreams.
We'll discuss what your unique relationship coaching journey will look like and if we're a good fit, we can get to work.
Step 2: Intensive 2hr Dynamic Diagnosis Session With Report
After your individual discovery sessions, you can book a standalone 2hr session where we deep dive into you and your partners dynamic. You'll be asked to fill in a questionnaire before the session and then I will combine our results from both the discovery sessions and the deep dive session to create a "Dynamic Diagnosis" along with roadmap for success,
You'll discover how your attachment styles, conflict styles, emotional needs and relationship triggers interact to create your current dynamic.
The report comes with instructions on how to transform your relationship as a couple.
At this point, you may decide to book a package of coaching sessions with me, to work through these challenges, either individually or as a couple or both.
Special Offer For Limited Time Only:
Buy a couples ticket for my Recreating Relationships course and get £49 off your Dynamic Diagnosis Session.
Visit The Recreating Relationship Course page here for details:
Step 3: 10-Week Recreating Relationships Course
Dates: 3rd May 2025, for 10 weeks.
Timings: 10:30am to 12:30pm.
Trainer: Jessica Reed-Robbins
Delivery: via Zoom (and recorded)
Recreate your relationship in the comfort of your own home, with our 10-Week Online Training Course.
This comprehensive course guides you through transforming the dynamics of your relationship by exploring attachment styles, understanding your emotional needs and how to honour them. You will explore your love languages and learn how to communicate in a way that fosters deeper connection, builds emotional intimacy and greater compassion. You'll learn how to manage and resolve conflicts, and recognise your own emotional triggers and how to manage or neutralise them.
Whether you're looking to deepen your connection, navigate challenges, this course equips you with the tools to heal, grow, and thrive in your partnership.
This course will help even if your partner is not yet ready to join you in your development and growth. Many improvements can be made by one partner making changes as you begin to learn so much about yourself and your own blueprints.
These skills are beneficial even if you're at the end of your relationship, embarking on a new relationship or planning to stay single. You take your blueprint with you into every relationship, whether your intimate partner, career, friends and even finances! So ensuring that ALL your relationships are fulfilling is a gift for yourself and anyone that loves you.
Step 4: Relationship Coaching Sessions
We’ll discuss the findings of your report and map out the steps toward building the relationship you desire. This could involve just a few individual sessions or a combined approach with individual and couple sessions over a few months.
Your journey will be unique and tailored to you. Your journey may include some or all of the following parts.
Part 1: Essential Relationship Skills:
Your report will highlight the skills you would benefit from building on, such as communication and expressing yourself, resolving conflicts, building emotional intimacy, and how to meet each other’s emotional needs.
You might prefer to do this using our self paced digital training on it's own, or combine it with couples sessions where we put the skills into practise.
Part 2: Heal & Resolve:
A vital aspect of your relationship journey, is the individual healing necessary to transform your partnership.
Individual breakthrough coaching will help you heal your relationship blueprint along with any emotional triggers, feelings and behaviours you want to change.
Part 3: Develop Trust & Intimacy:
Couple sessions help you to build new skills and put everything into practise. It's also where you can bring up difficult subjects and get them resolved once and for all. These sessions help you build the emotional intimacy you need for a deeply fulfilling relationship.
Part 4: Ongoing Support:
Once you feel you've reached a place where you can keep building connection on your own, I will continue to provide email and whatsApp support for up to 4 weeks after your last session.
Packages & Prices
Free Discovery Sessions:
If you're seeing me as a couple, you can book a free 45-minute discovery session for each of you via Zoom. After this I'll be able to assess your suitability for relationship coaching and suggest the best coaching options for the outcomes you're looking to achieve. The next steps would be to book your Dynamic Diagnosis Session with the report so you can decide what to do next.
2hr Dynamic Diagnosis Session With Full Report £349
Sometimes, just understanding the aspects of your dynamic, attachment styles, conflict styles and the causes of individual triggers is enough for you to find a new level of compassion and appreciation for your partner.
After your individual discovery sessions, you and your partner will have a 2 hour deep dive couple's session into your dynamic and your blueprint.
I'll get you started within the session on your journey back to each other.
You'll also receive a report with my recommendations and exercises you can do to work through things together at home.
You may prefer to join my 10-week online training where you can recreate your relationship throughout the course or I can guide you personally through the resolution via a mix of individual and couples coaching sessions.
Relationships Coaching Packages
The most cost effective way to work is to book a package which includes the option of a regular session time, a mix of individual and couple sessions as well as the following bonuses.
All Packages include:
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Relationship Digital Training (worth £197 + VAT)
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Tier 3 - WhatsApp support (worth £350 + VAT per person, per week)
6 sessions - 12 hrs | 6 weeks £2220
12 sessions - 24 hrs | 12 weeks £4200
18 sessions - 36 hrs | 18 weeks £5940
Pay-As-You-Go Coaching £195 per hour
If you prefer to keep things flexible, you can book sessions as and when you would like, You can still work through any aspect of your relationship or your own individual blueprints. You may wish to work through some difficult areas of conflict with me or work on your emotional intimacy together. This option can work well in conjunction with the On-Demand Digital Training and WhatsApp Support.
WhatsApp "On-Call" Support Packages
Tier 1: Best Friends £1000 pp, per week
Perfect if you need a lot of support during a challenging time.
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Guaranteed response within 3 hours. 9am to 9pm. Mon-Sun.
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Unlimited voice memos and text exchanges per week.
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Up to 3 x 20-minute calls per week.
Tier 2: Coaching Companion £700 pp, per week
Perfect if you need daily support.
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Guaranteed response within 8 hours. 9am to 9pm. Mon-Sun.
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Up to 14 voice memos from me per week.
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Up to 1 x 20-minute call per week.
Tier 3: Cheerlead Squad £350 pp, per week
Perfect if you need some additional support.
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Guaranteed response within 8 hours, 9am to 5pm. Mon-Fri.
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Up to 5 voice memos from me per week.
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Included in all Coaching Packages
